It’s National Suicide Prevention Week 2015 here in the US and this is difficult reading for me. Why?
Because I unknowingly put my daughter at a four-fold risk of suicide. What mother in their right mind would do that???? How is THAT supposed to be a blessing, dear LDS church? How is an increased risk for suicide “about love“?
This adoption truth would have been a game changer for me. I would have never relinquished her for adoption. I was promised she would grow up whole and happy because she had the magic elixir of Mormondom – two parents who were sealed in the temple. It was supposed to be the secret sauce that protected her from depression and low self-esteem, among many other things.
But I was lied to.
And she suffered.
So yes, this is difficult, but necessary reading.
Talking about suicide is hard and uncomfortable. Talking about it in connection with adoption–which often has much joy but is more complex than people realize–is challenging. And we need to talk, and keep sharing information and resources.
I am pleased to share with you my article “Understanding Why Adoptees Are At Higher Risk For Suicide,” published today by Forefront, a University of Washington collaboration of the UW School of Social Work, UW Communication, UW School of Nursing, and UW College of Education.
My three main points in the article are these:
Adoption is a trauma.
Adoptees often don’t know their medical histories, which may include depression and other illnesses.
Adoptees don’t want to upset their adoptive parents with concerns about depression or what could be seen as ingratitude.
I know people I love more than words can say who have considered. and attempted, suicide. I do not presume to…
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