Dear Ms. Feverfew:
Want to know what I am terribly tired of? People telling me that I am the “exception” when I share with them about losing you and then raising Captain Knuckle (as a single mom) a few short years later, all while getting my BS and MS and successfully balancing the demands of motherhood, scholarship, and work.
I am not the exception.
There are countless other women who successfully parent (yes, even single mothers), get degrees, have jobs, have lives, and generally live lives that are the antithesis of the stereo-typical crack-whore birth mother/abusive single mother scenario the adoption industry likes to perpetuate.
Women just like me. Mothers. Wives. Contributing members of society.
I am not the exception. I am the norm.
To borrow a phrase from current events, I am the 99%. (Well, technically it should be 99.73% because the vast majority of us fall within three standard deviations of the norm, but 99.73% gets a little awkward and doesn’t look nearly as good on signs and doesn’t rhyme as well, either. Plus, I can only imagine you don’t want a lesson in elementary statistics right now.)