Normally, I write you letters about me and about my experience and about us and about our past and our (hopeful) future. If I do discuss “others” it is generally in very broad generalities. Today though…today I am going to get a big fat “F” in that category.
A valiant adoptee that I have met on the internet has a semi-regular feature on her blog where she showcases particularly odious and offensive blog posts about adoption that she finds (or are sent to her). Her most recent one was from an LDS woman who is finalizing an adoption from foster care.
I didn’t get a chance to read the original post that garnered the Blog of Shame award because the blog author pulled it quickly (ashamed of what you wrote, Sister Entitled Adoptive Mother?), but I did take the opportunity to go back and read nearly every blog post this woman has written.
One post in particular from February (http://ldsinfertility.blogspot.com/2010/02/fhoto-friday_26.html) was particularly stunning in it’s…what’s the word Cricket uses? Vomitrociousness. Yes. That’s it. Vomitrociousness. It was simple, elegant, and not difficult to read but it’s message was crystal clear.
Here’s a brief screen shot of it for your viewing pleasure (edited to add link):
I left a comment though I am sure it will not be posted. It says this:
The sense of entitlement and self-righteous behavior of so many adoptive LDS mothers is sickening. It is shameful. This attitude of entitlement is unbecoming of a daughter of God.
I need to go for a really long walk so that I don’t throw a huge screaming hissy fit when Mr. Amazing Man gets home. It’s not his fault there are so many horrible LDS adoptive mothers out there, but he sure bears the brunt of my anger about/towards them.
I know once this passes, I will be left with sadness for those children and for their natural mother. But right now, I am one unhappy mama.
Much love –
P.S. There are a few good LDS adoptive mamas out there – Shannan, Monica, Nina, Kathy to name a few. Thank God, literally, for women like them. They just seem to be so few and far between…